Have you ever ever puzzled why there are lots of totally different kinds of ENFJs on the market on this planet? Some ENFJs are bubbly and supportive, going out of their technique to give to others. Different ENFJs have blustery tempers and attempt to be impartial and uncontrolled. Why are there so many distinctive kinds of ENFJs? What causes these variations? Properly, in lots of circumstances, these variations stem from totally different Enneagram varieties throughout the ENFJ character sort.
As with all typology programs, the MBTI® can solely inform us a fraction of details about who we’re. The data you collect from the world round you and the knowledge you prioritize in decision-making are all influenced by your Myers-Briggs® character sort. However your Enneagram sort can inform you what your core fears are, your driving motivations, and the injuries you skilled in childhood.
As we speak we’re taking a look at 9 totally different kinds of ENFJs utilizing the Enneagram as a manner so as to add nuance to your character understanding. I hope you’ll attain a complete new degree of self-understanding by way of this!
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The 9 Enneagram Kinds of the ENFJ
The ENFJ Enneagram One Sort
Core Worry: Being corrupt, evil, or “dangerous”
Core Need: To be good and to have integrity
ENFJ Ones have an intense want to succeed in their beliefs and to reside a life that aligns with their values. They need to be the very best model of themselves and are simply liable to perfectionism. But this drive to be good shouldn’t be motivated by the necessity for esteem or reward, it’s an intrinsic want inside themselves that must be fulfilled. These ENFJs have a robust ethical code and are involved with methods of life which are “proper” or “improper.” They’re the last word idealists; they don’t need to simply think about a greater world, they need to exit and make that higher world a actuality. Sometimes busy and industrious, they’re typically serving to out of their communities, talking out towards injustice, and giving up their time in service of the higher good. Whereas they nonetheless keep the heat typical of ENFJs, they’ve a stricter and extra even handed facet than the everyday ENFJ.
Sadly, ENFJ Ones may be very powerful on themselves. They’ve an inside critic that places them down, criticizes any flaw in themselves or others, or holds them to impossibly excessive requirements. The more healthy the One is, the extra they’re capable of acknowledge that that voice isn’t “God” and even the reality. They’ll hear the voice and respect it with out believing it or giving it an amazing quantity of energy of their lives. Thus they change into extra accepting and tolerant of themselves and others. The unhealthier the One is, the extra energy they offer this inside critic, and thus they change into judgmental of themselves and others and might change into condemning, self-righteous, and judgmental.
As a result of Ones are within the Intuition/Physique triad of the Enneagram, they expertise lots of instinctive rage or anger. But they try to repress it as a result of they really feel it’s a “dangerous” emotion and one which should be managed. Thus their anger slips out in crucial feedback, judgmental remarks, or bodily stress like a decent jaw or clenched fists.
Unhealthy Ones Can Be: Self-Righteous, Bitter, Judgmental, Overworked, Defensive, and Liable to Black-and-White Pondering, Hypocritical. They’re typically overwhelmed by a nagging concern that they may by no means be “adequate.”
Common Ones Can Be: Critical, Pushed, Purposeful, Scheduled, Even handed, Organized, Tense, Opinionated, Sarcastic, Arduous-Working, Devoted, Accountable.
Wholesome Ones Can Be: Wise, Grounded, Understanding, Tolerant, Goal, Accepting, Hopeful, Smart, Discerning, Joyful, Empathetic, Humble, Playful.
The ENFJ Enneagram Two Sort
Core Worry: Of being nugatory, undesirable, or unlovable.
Core Need: To be beloved for who they’re.
The Two is a reasonably widespread Enneatype for the ENFJ. Pushed to serve and get the wants of the individuals round them met, these varieties embody the phrase “caring.” ENFJs are identified for being insightful about individuals and rapidly capable of learn the emotional wants of anybody pretty rapidly. When mixed with the Two Enneatype, these people can really feel like mind-readers in a way. They’re emotionally in tune with the world round them and might accommodate individuals’s emotions with out having to be requested. Deeply involved with how individuals really feel, they’re cognizant of the unstated social contracts which are anticipated of them.
The wrestle for ENFJ Twos is usually that they refuse to ask for assist in terms of their personal wants. Common to unhealthy Twos consider that they will and may assist others, but to be in want and to ask for assist looks like a slight to their pleasure and thus they could chorus from doing so. That mentioned, they nonetheless need individuals to have the ability to anticipate their wants in the identical manner they do for others. That is hardly ever accomplished, nevertheless, and plenty of ENFJ Twos discover themselves burned out and exhausted by serving others and getting little in return for it. The more healthy the Two is, the extra doubtless they’re to ask for assist, prioritize their very own well-being, and perceive and implement wholesome boundaries.
In childhood, ENFJ Twos had been taught to place others’ earlier than themselves. Selflessness was praised and even preached to them. Over time it grew to become tough for them to set wholesome boundaries, and so they typically believed that they needed to earn the love of others by way of selfless acts. As dominant feeling varieties, they realized to learn others’ feelings and prioritize them above their very own. They hoped by being useful, beneficiant family members, they might earn their place (and the love of others).
As a result of Twos are within the Coronary heart triad of the Enneagram, they expertise underlying points with disgrace. They fear that in the event that they don’t serve or give sufficient that they may lose their relationships or be nugatory. On the flipside, they generally expertise pleasure as a result of they suppose that others wouldn’t be capable of make it with out them.
Unhealthy Twos Can Be: Consideration-Looking for, Determined, Clingy, Sufferer-Minded, Overbearing, Individuals-Pleasing, Manipulative, Over-worked, Damage, Exhausted, Insecure, Prideful.
Common Twos Can Be: Proud, Selfless, Caring, Properly-Intentioned, Complimentary, Supportive, Useful, Nurturing Flattering, Insecure, Accountable, Possessive.
Wholesome Twos Can Be: Expressive, Compassionate, Beneficiant, Self-accepting, Joyful, Humble, Imaginative, Inventive, Supportive, Insightful. They prioritize themselves relatively than at all times placing others first.
The ENFJ Three Enneagram Sort
Core Worry: Of being nugatory with out success or achievement.
Core Need: To really feel desired, accepted, and profitable.
Objective-oriented and motivated, ENFJ Threes are pushed by their visions and have a urgent want to remain busy. They rapidly perceive the place they stack up amongst their mates and colleagues and attempt to be succesful, profitable, and to stand out ultimately. Many instances they align their model of success with their beliefs; working in direction of a greater future or drawing individuals in direction of a trigger that issues to them. Some merely need to be the very best at no matter job they pursue, be it a financial institution teller or a motivational speaker! No matter their chosen career, they may attempt to do it to their utmost power and so they’ll use their time and vitality within the pursuit of excellence. These ENFJs remind us that we’re all able to nice issues after we set our hearts and minds to the work.
ENFJ Threes typically really feel slowed down by the concept that there’s by no means an finish to all their striving. Irrespective of how a lot they accomplish there’ll at all times be one other objective to succeed in and one other dream to make actual. They’re liable to burnout and might neglect themselves in pursuit of their model of success. It’s essential that these Threes determine what makes them actually comfortable; not simply what provides to their success. Nevertheless, introspection and self-examination typically take a backseat to arduous work and accomplishment for Threes.
In childhood, ENFJ Threes typically felt unvalued for who they had been. They got the impression that solely by profitable or reaching would they be valued or actually beloved. Any type of reward gave them a lift of validation, and so they discovered themselves anxiously making an attempt to realize and attempt tougher with a view to hold that validation coming. On the surface, they could look materialistic. They get pleasure from gathering symbols of their success, be it precise trophies or only a good automotive and a pleasant wardrobe. They fear that with out these tokens of success they could be a failure or individuals is not going to actually worth them. Ideally as they mature by way of life, they be taught the significance of creating integrity and happiness relatively than materials gadgets.
As a result of Threes are within the Coronary heart triad of the Enneagram, they have a tendency to expertise points with disgrace. But in contrast to the Two or 4, Threes are sometimes out of contact with their emotions. As ENFJs, they’re extremely attuned to others’ emotions however are much less aware of their very own. The objective is to succeed, to attempt, to realize. Reflecting on their very own feelings can really feel like a “waste of time” to them till they attain a wholesome degree of maturity.
Unhealthy Threes Can Be: Depressed, Conceited, Insecure, Empty, Offended, Consideration-Looking for, Confused, Useless, Deceitful, Aggressive, Burned-Out, Guarded.
Common Threes Can Be: Over-Achievers, Conceited, Formidable, Self-Doubting, Self-Selling, Aggressive, Visionary, Arduous-Working, Inventive, Decided, Stressed.
Wholesome Threes Can Be: Imaginative, Inspiring, Assured, Inventive, Real, Self-accepting, Benevolent, Visionary, Insightful, and/or Empathetic. These threes discover their true id and uncover what they really need relatively than what society labels as “success.”
The ENFJ 4 Enneagram Sort
Core Worry: Of being insignificant or with out id.
Core Need: To seek out their very own significance or id.
ENFJ Fours are uncommon and infrequently appear extra quiet and introspective than the common ENFJ. There’s an expressiveness and perception to those Fours that units them aside. In flip, they’re typically drawn to creative pursuits and the dramatic arts. Extra melancholy than many ENFJs, these people typically sense what’s lacking of their lives, what’s flawed inside them, and the way they’re totally different from others. They see richness and sweetness in unhappiness, and in being totally different, however that doesn’t imply it doesn’t trigger them ache. Deep down they want they may discover somebody to be their true buddy and confidante, however they typically wrestle to search out individuals to genuinely join with. Emotionally wealthy and in tune with the sentiments of others, they crave genuine, uncooked, intimate moments. They need to know what’s behind the façade of others and peer extra deeply into their souls. Any state of affairs, regardless of how bleak, may be full of profound magnificence and emotional depth to them.
In childhood, Fours typically felt misplaced of their households; as in the event that they weren’t understood. This will likely have been unintentional from the mother and father, however the impression was there simply the identical. Thus they targeted on what made them totally different, and tried to courageous by way of the darkness of their emotions with a view to cope. Discovering their id grew to become their life objective as a technique to make peace with the melancholy and loneliness that got here from feeling so totally different.
Fours are within the Disgrace/Coronary heart triad of the Enneagram. Due to this, they’ve underlying points with disgrace. But in contrast to the opposite two varieties within the coronary heart triad, they face their disgrace and dig into it as deeply as they will. For the 4 it may be necessary to not change into overwhelmed by disgrace and to honor their strengths, realizing that emotions aren’t at all times correct – and generally these melancholy emotions of rejection aren’t the reality.
Unhealthy Fours Can Be: Self-destructive, depressed, unrealistic, self-loathing, self-sabotaging, wasteful, apathetic, envious, listless, exhausted, and/or misplaced in fantasies.
Common Fours Can Be: Imaginative, self-conscious, melancholy, introspective, envious, aesthetically motivated, self-absorbed, delicate, empathetic, and/or visionary.
Wholesome Fours Can Be: Inventive, eloquent, genuine, imaginative, insightful, trustworthy, forgiving, revealing, empathic, accepting, and grateful. They don’t really feel a must be totally different – they know that there’s solely one among them and they’re good as they’re.
The ENFJ 5 Enneagram Sort
Core Worry: Being helpless, incompetent, or overwhelmed.
Core Need: To be competent and succesful.
The 5 is an particularly uncommon sort for the ENFJ to establish with, nevertheless it does occur now and again. ENFJ Fives are extra indifferent, aloof, and protecting of themselves than the common ENFJ. They hope that by possessing sufficient info and knowledge that they will really feel protected on this planet. There’s a way that they’re “not prepared” to be out on this planet and taking motion; they have to be taught extra first. These ENFJs are usually extra in contact with their Introverted Pondering facet than the common ENFJ. They exhaustively check themselves and their concepts to see if they will stand as much as scrutiny. Many instances they expertise power stress on account of being extra indifferent from others and the emotional intimacy they crave.
ENFJ Fives really feel a push and pull between wanting to attach with others (by way of Extraverted Feeling) and draw back (attributable to their 5 tendencies). Changing into overwhelmed by others is an actual concern and so they hate being barged in on or having extreme interpersonal calls for positioned on them. On the similar time, as ENFJs they need to reside in an environment of emotional concord and connection. The individuals they do dedicate their time and vitality to they’re deeply loyal to and can exit of their technique to nurture.
In childhood, ENFJ Fives typically felt that they weren’t safe or protected ultimately. This security might not have been associated to neglect or something excessive. They may have felt emotionally overwhelmed by their households or their life-style may have felt unstructured and chaotic. As Judgers, ENFJs like having a clearly outlined set of schedules and guidelines and expectations. But when the household was disorganized and disruptive, they could have retreated into themselves. In solitude, they wouldn’t have to fret about being overwhelmed by individuals’s unpredictability or emotional outbursts. In non-public they may delve into their insights, think about, and study no matter topic sparked their curiosity.
Fives are within the Head/Worry triad of the Enneagram. They deal with their concern by withdrawing and gathering info. The extra they know, the extra they consider they will confront their fears with competence.
Unhealthy Fives Can Be: Aloof, eccentric, insomniacs, caught in analysis-paralysis, afraid, reclusive, secretive, under-nourished, fearful, faraway from their emotions, and/or argumentative.
Common Fives Can Be: Cerebral, insecure, excessive strung, secretive, non-public, skeptical, resentful, imaginative, inventive, non-public, pre-occupied, conceptual, observant, and/or clever.
Wholesome Fives Can Be: Competent, robust, profound, curious, authentic, creative, ingenious, authentic, impartial, clear-minded, grounded, compassionate, engaged, perceptive, and/or productive.
The ENFJ Six Enneagram Sort
Core Worry: To be deserted and with out help.
Core Need: To seek out help and safety.
The ENFJ Six is extremely targeted on potential threats and circumventing doable dangers. Extra cautious than the common ENFJ, they query themselves and search for authorities or empirical proof and analysis to information them (generally they belief non secular leaders, generally precise scientific authorities). Neighborhood builders at coronary heart, these Sixes convey individuals collectively and attempt to create help programs for themselves and others. They’re typically on the coronary heart of neighborhood outreach applications and are hardworking and devoted to no matter imaginative and prescient they set out for themselves and the individuals on their crew.
Many individuals initially suppose that ENFJ Sixes are accepting of authority and avid rule-followers. However they do have a rebellious facet as nicely! Some Sixes are very defiant of authority and are keen to go down preventing towards anybody who hasn’t earned their belief; testing, confronting, and questioning. Different Sixes are outwardly respectful of authority and meeker, however they’re typically secretly full of the identical questions and skepticisms of the extra overtly outspoken Six.
In childhood, many Sixes felt as in the event that they had been unsafe and didn’t have sufficient safety. Even when their childhoods had been fairly protected they sensed risks in all places that weren’t being handled. Consequently, they realized early on to maintain their eyes open to potential threats and to have a conflicted relationship with authority.
As a result of Sixes are within the Head/Worry triad, they grapple with underlying points with anxiousness. They’ve issue trusting their very own minds and so they look outdoors themselves for tips, communities, or authorities that really feel unshakable. This can be a battle for them, nevertheless, as a result of they’re additionally afraid of trusting in something or anybody which may allow them to down. Due to this, particularly at common to unhealthy ranges, they really feel continually insecure. As soon as Sixes attain wholesome ranges of maturity they be taught to belief their instincts and type lasting bonds and relationships with others.
Unhealthy Sixes Can Be: Affected by guilt, delusional, self-punishing, self-destructive, paranoid, insecure, obsessive about fears, testy, helpless, panicky, and depressed.
Common Sixes Can Be: Supportive, indecisive, authority-seeking, authority-questioning, anxious, pessimistic, cautious, cynical, skeptical, impulsive, dutiful, and/or hard-working.
Wholesome Sixes Can Be: Accountable, sensible, dedicated, grounded, well-disciplined, insightful, visionary, pleasant, reliable, hard-working, serene, and courageous.
The ENFJ Seven Enneagram Sort
Core Worry: Of being in ache, trapped, or disadvantaged
Core Need: To be comfortable, glad, and have their wants fulfilled
Cheerful, fun-loving, and imaginative, ENFJ Sevens see optimistic potential in all places round them. Usually inspiring and visionary, they solid an image of a greater world or an enlightening expertise and beckon others to affix them. They’re extra risk-taking than many ENFJs, refusing to just accept limitations and stopping at nothing to reside life to the fullest. But beneath their bubbly, adventurous exterior, they typically have points with anxiousness. As a part of the top/concern triad they typically have a concern of being trapped and of not getting their wants met. The extra they keep busy and pursue new concepts and pursuits the much less they’ve to take a seat with painful feelings or reminiscences. Being continually busy and entertained helps them to concentrate on the optimistic, however it will probably additionally make them be much less self-aware than they need to be. Sevens are gifted at reframing unfavorable conditions in a optimistic gentle. Generally that is good, but different instances it will probably make them neglectful of great points.
In childhood, Sevens typically felt a distance between themselves and the nurturing determine of their life (typically the mom, however not at all times). To manage, they sought nurturance and contentment by way of distractions: toys, video games, exercise, or laughter. Even in maturity, Sevens hunt down objects and distractions to assist them repress emotions of separation, harm, and anguish. The hole that Sevens really feel between themselves and their mom might not have been attributable to something intentional or extreme. For example, one other child may need been born and wanted extra consideration.
Unhealthy Sevens Can Be: Escapists, Hedonistic, Reckless, Joyless, Infantile, Scattered, Unstable, Overwhelmed, Consideration-Looking for, Impulsive, Paralyzed.
Common Sevens Can Be: Impatient, Imaginative, Inventive, Extreme, Enthusiastic, Distracted, Adventurous, Materialistic, Stressed, Self-Centered, Expert at Multi-Tasking.
Wholesome Sevens Can Be: Happy, Grounded, Daring, Visionary, Practical, Charismatic, Appreciative, Joyful, Useful, Profound.
The ENFJ Eight Enneagram Sort
Core Worry: Being managed or violated
Core Need: To pave their very own manner in life and to guard themselves.
Eight is among the rarest Enneatypes for ENFJs. Identified for being empathetic and community-centered, Eights as a substitute crave autonomy and hate feeling tied all the way down to something outdoors themselves. Assertive and charismatic, these ENFJs are extra outspoken about their values and extra keen to begin a battle if it would result in a spark of emotional understanding or be persuasive in getting individuals to align with a trigger. Many Eights are skeptical of authority and hate being instructed what to do or find out how to reside their lives; whereas they’re typically leaders in causes or actions, they’re hardly ever followers.
ENFJ Eights will seem extra socially conscious, gregarious, or heat than most Eights. They consider in defending the underdogs, preventing for his or her values, defending justice, and talking out towards something that defies their deeply-held values. Usually they’re confrontational and aggressive in direction of individuals who look like a risk to their family members. Since they’ve such consciousness of different peoples’ emotions, they will use that to their benefit and navigate hostile emotional territory with finesse; showing charismatic and even intimidating, however doing it in a manner that resonates with somebody in a deeper emotional sense.
Eights are within the Physique/Anger triad of the Enneagram. Relatively than making an attempt to stifle their anger (just like the One), they specific their anger outwardly. Nevertheless, they’re extra emotionally in tune with others and conscious of which buttons their urgent, relatively than tactlessly exploding on individuals with out realizing how they’re affecting anybody.
Unhealthy Eights Can Be: Damaging, Bossy, Rejecting, Vengeful, Aggressive, Personal, Hardened, Authoritative, and/or Confrontational.
Common Eights Can Be: Resourceful, Aggressive, Businesslike, Boastful, Willful, Proud, Dangerous-tempered, Impartial, Arduous-Working, Protecting and/or Decided.
Wholesome Eights Can Be: Brave, Heroic, Forgiving, Energetic, Impartial, Motion-Oriented, Resourceful, Direct, Protecting, Inspiring, Beneficiant, Strategic, Decisive, Self-Assured, and/or Genuine.
The ENFJ 9 Enneagram Sort
Core Worry: Fragmentation, loss, or separation
Core Need: To have inside peace of thoughts and concord
9 is a reasonably widespread sort for ENFJ. Empathetic and nurturing, these varieties search a harmonious life with empathic connections and imaginative interaction. They see magnificence in every thing and are sometimes daydreamers, visionaries, and confidantes. Their conscientious, supportive nature makes them a favourite amongst mates, who really feel that they will share something with them with out concern of judgment or harsh reprimands.
The ENFJ 9 could seem extra outspoken than different Nines. Although they crave tranquility and concord, they’re nonetheless extroverted varieties who need to stand for a price or trigger or result in reference to individuals. In the event that they really feel that somebody is disrupting the concord of the group or violating a deeply-held worth, they’re prone to get up and say one thing about it. Nevertheless, when issues are even-keeled and calm they like it. Actually, they could not say what they need in sure conditions as a result of they don’t need to trigger a rift or rock the boat. It takes time for them to be taught to really feel snug expressing their true wants and wishes as a result of they typically give them a backseat for the wishes and needs of others.
In childhood, Nines realized that one of the simplest ways to deal with turmoil of their setting was to “numb out” or emotionally vacate. They practiced early on dissociating from threatening or disruptive occasions and making themselves low-maintenance in order that they wouldn’t trouble anybody or make issues worse. They felt that in the event that they asserted themselves or grew to become offended they might solely make issues worse. In order that they stayed within the background, repressed their emotions, their will, and their wishes.
Whereas on the surface ENFJ Nines might sound easy-going and unphased, they typically construct up an excessive amount of resentment and anger and ultimately will “snap” in the event that they by no means be taught to course of their emotions in wholesome methods. Like Eights and Ones, Nines are within the Physique/Anger triad. However whereas Eights specific their anger, Nines attempt to numb themselves to it (till they inevitably explode). Family and friends members could also be shocked when the beneficiant, easy-going 9 lashes out unexpectedly as soon as their endurance has boiled over.
Unhealthy Nines Can Be: Withdrawn, Ineffectual, Depressed, Unrealistic, Dissociated, Disoriented, Numb, Helpless, Lazy, Repressed, Neglectful, and/or Listless.
Common Nines Can Be: Agreeable, Compassionate, Disengaged, Amicable, Open-Minded, Deflecting, Resigned, Appeasing, Complacent, Dismissive of Ache.
Wholesome Nines Can Be: Affected person, Stage-Headed, Imaginative, Current, Dynamic, Inspiring, Self-Possessed, Serene, Straightforward-Going, Sort, Affected person, Peaceable, Comforting, and/or Non secular.
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