For a few years Shay had a form of mantra she would use earlier than she left the home. It went like this, “Telephone, purse, keys!” and it’s self-explanatory that she used it to assist be certain she didn’t neglect these essential gadgets.
Sensible, proper?
Over the previous couple of years, nonetheless, since she’s labored with me, she added an additional phrase to her mantra/guidelines – “ease.”
Now she pauses for, “Telephone, purse, keys, ease.”
Ease is a cue for her to pause and shift her pondering and consciousness in a manner that predictably helps her really feel extra comfy. She’s practiced this a lot it comes fairly naturally now.
Including “ease” to her guidelines permits her to pause and have a second of calm that enables her nervous system to be extra regulated as she leaves the home and heads out into the world. It’s turn into a pause observe.
Usually, we rush to get out the door – we’re operating behind, or hyper centered on what’s forward, and positively not current to the right here and now. It’s demanding. By pausing, not solely to undergo her guidelines, however to have a second of ease, Shay is ready to add slightly house between herself and that stress, like a buffer, so she doesn’t take that stress – or not as a lot of it – along with her into no matter is subsequent in her day.
Simply saying the phrase “ease” to herself is sufficient for Shay to now expertise a second of reduction from stress and pressure.
Is there one thing that you just do – one thing that solely takes a second or two – that has a predictably useful impact on you? Perhaps connecting to your breath or noticing your toes on the bottom? Just a bit one thing to assist convey you to the current second in a useful manner on your nervous system.
Shay and I had loads of enjoyable making this quick video about her pause observe. Take pleasure in!
What do you wish to take with you as you head into the world? And what would you like to go away behind? Why don’t you create your individual pause observe to make use of earlier than you permit the home? What would yours be?
Tell us! You would even make your individual video in the event you’re feeling courageous – or foolish – sufficient!
Shay Seaborne, CPTSD, is a trauma consciousness educator who companions with me to supply workshops and applications for individuals coping with trauma or persistent stress.
Shay first got here to me as a consumer six years in the past. As Shay studied neurobiology and neuroscience to assist her perceive and resolve PTSD, she more and more understood that my BodyIntelligence work offers a really neuropositive strategy and observe. BodyIntelligence has turn into one in all her core assets in serving to her rebuild and assist the regulation her personal nervous system.
As we continued to work collectively, we turned good pals, sharing an pleasure over the neuroscience that backs up the straightforward and profound practices of BodyIntelligence and the Alexander Method ideas and ideas which might be at its core. Out of this was born our work collectively.
Our signature program, Foundations of Regulation, is an interactive six-week on-line course during which Shay’s expertise as a trauma survivor and her understanding of the neuroscience referring to trauma is paired with sensible instruments and ideas from my BodyIntelligence work.
The following Foundations of Regulation course begins on Could 21. Extra info at: imogenragone.com/foundations-of-regulation
