The Stunning Cause That Relaxation Is Important For Perfectionists + How To Truly Get Some [Part 3: Getting Shit Done Series]

That is Half 3 of my 5-Half Getting Shit Carried out Sequence. At present I’m sharing why perfectionists need to take a distinct method to relaxation and time without work in contrast with everybody else. I additionally share what to do in the event you really feel responsible taking time without work, particularly in the event you’re somebody who loves work and need to get totally caught up on every part earlier than you let your self take a break so as to totally take pleasure in it.

Discover the total episode transcript and present notes at samlaurabrown.com/episode512.

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Introduction

Hello, and welcome to a different episode of The Perfectionism Venture, a podcast filled with perfectionism recommendation for entrepreneurs. My title is Sam Laura Brown. I assist entrepreneurs launch their perfectionism handbrake to allow them to get out of their very own method and construct a satisfying and worthwhile enterprise. I’m the founding father of the Perfectionists Getting Shit Carried out group teaching program, which is in any other case often known as PGSD. And for much more perfectionism recommendation that can assist you with your corporation, you may observe me on Instagram @perfectionismproject.

Sam Laura Brown – (The Getting Shit Carried out Sequence)

[00:00:29] Okay. That is half three of my 5 half Getting Shit Carried out sequence. By the best way, I’m simply going to imagine that in the event you’re listening to half three, you may have listened to half one and half two. That’s the method most perfectionists will method these sorts of issues. So I’m going to imagine the identical is true for you.

[00:00:46] Nevertheless, if that is the primary half you’re listening to, that’s completely okay. You’re going to get a number of worth from it. However my advice so you may have the total image of find out how to get shit executed as a perfectionist entrepreneur is that you just hearken to half one and half two as properly so as to be actually simply understanding and figuring out precisely what’s required to go from being a perfectionist Procrastinating, overthinker with quite a lot of smarts and quite a lot of potential to being somebody who’s persistently and sustainably taking motion of their enterprise.

[00:01:18] So on this half, we’re going to be speaking about clear relaxation, guilt free relaxation. It’s a subject that almost all perfectionists have a tough time with. It’s essential, very, essential. So keep tuned for half three of this sequence. I actually hope you take pleasure in it. And likewise, simply so that you’re conscious. And you will get prepared to enroll if it’s going to be the next step is to know that my program Perfectionists Getting Shit Carried out, aka PGSD, which is my productiveness program for perfectionist entrepreneurs.

[00:01:50] We’re opening for enrollment for one week solely from the thirty first of January to the seventh of February. So to search out out extra about this system and to hitch the waitlist, so you will get prepared to enroll, you may go to samlaurabrown.com/PGSD. It’ll be linked up for you within the present notes as properly, however I hope you take pleasure in half three of the Getting Shit Carried out sequence.

Sam Laura Brown – (Begin of the episode)

[00:02:12] That is all about find out how to get shit executed as a perfectionist who’s constructing a enterprise, notably in the event you’re a procrastinator, in case you are an overthinker, in the event you burn your self out, in the event you simply discover that you just get in your personal method and also you’re like, I do know what to do and I’m simply not doing it.

[00:02:30] And I attempt to inspire myself and I attempt to be extra disciplined and I’m nonetheless simply not doing it. That is for you. And likewise, in the event you didn’t know my program, Perfectionists Getting Shit Carried out, it’s my productiveness program for perfectionist entrepreneurs. We’re opening for enrollment on the thirty first of January. So if you wish to get additional assist with every part that I’m speaking about, PGSD is the place for you.

[00:02:55] However on this sequence, what I’m actually desirous to do is assist you with actually sensible items of recommendation, That you should utilize to be productive this yr in your corporation and to not simply be filled with the hope and the optimism after which not have it flip into precise enterprise outcomes. If you wish to have a full time enterprise or perhaps you’re full time in your corporation, however you aren’t making a full time revenue, or perhaps you may have a much bigger purpose than that.

[00:03:20] Productiveness and execution is important. And in the event you’re a perfectionist, you might want to take a specific method to productiveness. In any other case your perfectionist mindset shall be triggered and you’ll procrastinate, overthink, be all or nothing. So identical to pressuring your self and like getting your self to do all of the issues, or you then’re simply not even making an attempt in any respect.

[00:03:39] So we simply need to have, you may have the proper instrument in your mind. It’s only a matter of getting, To make use of the analogy of somebody who wants glasses, like I put on glasses, when you have glasses, you need to have the proper prescription in your eyes. It is sensible. In the event you don’t have the proper prescription, it’s going to be fuzzy.

[00:03:57] Even in the event you attempt to inspire your self to see clearly, it’s nonetheless going to be fuzzy. It is advisable have the proper prescription in your eyes and you might want to have the proper productiveness instrument in your mind. And so energy planning and having a versatile planning technique. particularly in your perfectionist mind, particularly for you as an entrepreneur is vital and energy planning, the facility planning technique.

[00:04:19] I train that inside Perfectionists Getting Shit Carried out. It’s completely important in my productiveness and my shopper’s productiveness. And likewise as properly, I need to point out this as a result of I get quite a lot of questions on it. We’ve got quite a lot of perfectionist entrepreneurs in this system with ADHD who’ve a lot success with energy planning.

[00:04:37] Okay. As a result of the best way that energy planning works actually helps govt operate and has flexibility. It takes under consideration your work rhythms, and it’s all about having it give you the results you want as a substitute of in opposition to you. And that features your total mind, not simply the perfectionist piece of your mind. So I need to point out that as a result of lots of people ask about that.

[00:04:58] So I need to discuss right this moment. I do know it’s a little bit of an intro. Okay. I need to discuss right this moment about clear relaxation. So clear relaxation is when you find yourself resting with out guilt, resting with out disgrace. You’re really in a position then to recharge versus proper now you may be in considered one of two camps. You both don’t relaxation and also you solely let your self relaxation while you’re too exhausted to proceed both since you’ve utterly burned out or it’s 2am within the morning and also you actually can’t hold functioning.

[00:05:31] Otherwise you procrastinate and also you get quite a lot of relaxation by way of this like time without work, however you’re feeling so responsible that you just’re not really doing the issues you might want to do. So when you find yourself resting, even in case you are somebody who’s having some stage of productiveness, you’re resting, however you continually really feel like I must be being extra productive.

[00:05:52] I must be getting one thing executed proper now. I ought to like, particularly in enterprise, there’s at all times 1,000,000 issues that you possibly can be doing. And we perfectionists, we simply like to ought to ourselves and I must be doing greater than what I’m doing. And that guilt and that disgrace and that judgment from ourselves imply that relaxation isn’t really restorative.

[00:06:17] That relaxation doesn’t really recharge us. So then while you return to your work You might be exhausted and it’s actually exhausting to get shit executed after which every part takes longer so that you don’t really really feel like you may end on time. It’s important to work into the evenings or get up early within the morning to get work executed, work in lunch breaks, do all kinds of issues to attempt to squeeze the work in so that you’re getting much less relaxation then.

[00:06:43] And likewise you’re feeling much more behind. So in the event you do really let your self take time without work, or perhaps you may have a household dedication or a dinner or one thing like that, you are feeling so goddamn responsible on a regular basis. And what we need to do and what energy planning actually helps you with. is getting relaxation that restores you.

[00:07:01] Getting relaxation that makes it simpler to be productive in your work time. In case you have a productiveness downside, you might want to take a look at not simply how a lot relaxation you’re getting. There’s quite a lot of dialog round like work life steadiness and having time without work and like go to the spa and issues like that. What I’m extra curious about is what is occurring in your mind when you find yourself resting.

[00:07:24] What’s going on? Is your mind getting relaxation? And like, in quite a lot of my time without work the enterprise, I’m taking care of my three little ones. Like I’m busy doing issues. I’m not simply sitting round chilling all day lengthy. That isn’t the present part of life that I’m in. I’m within the part of life, the stage of life the place my non work time is busier in quite a lot of methods than my work time is.

[00:07:49] And so what do you do while you’re in that scenario? You be sure that your mind is getting rested, even in case you are bodily doing issues in that point, even in case you are together with caretaking, taking care of others, coping with tantrums and all these issues, that you’re really in a position to get relaxation in your mind in order that when work time comes, You’ll be able to focus extra simply.

[00:08:13] You’ll be able to have impressed concepts after which you may have the braveness and the capability to really execute on these concepts that you just really feel like you may have time and area to consider your corporation excessive stage that you’ve got time and area. In the event you’re somebody who likes to have like a much bigger chunk of time to work on issues that you just even have the power to try this.

[00:08:34] Relatively than simply, in the event you don’t have quite a lot of clear relaxation, you’ll discover that you just usually prioritize quite a lot of the little issues since you simply don’t really feel like you may have the power to even sit down and do like a two hour process that may contain much more deep pondering. Your mind is like, Nope, thanks, and I do know that there’s no relaxation coming.

[00:08:50] And so for many who want somewhat assist. With clear relaxation. And this is among the largest issues that we coach on and assist with in PGSD. It’s constructed into energy planning that it helps you to get clear relaxation. However this is among the largest friction factors, if you’ll, with perfectionist and productiveness is I simply favor to relaxation when every part is finished.

[00:09:14] I don’t actually. Need to relaxation my enterprise isn’t profitable sufficient for me to have the ability to relaxation and like that’s for somebody who’s extra profitable for me or somebody who doesn’t like work as a lot as me. And I used to be a tough promote prefer it to get myself to return round to the thought. I actually needed to present myself. That I used to be much more productive with relaxation and with clear relaxation particularly than with out relaxation as a result of I like working.

[00:09:44] I actually take pleasure in it. I like what I do. I may sit at a pc fortunately all day lengthy. So there’s that. Plus once I wasn’t being productive, I used to be like, I actually can’t afford to relaxation. I actually can’t afford it. Particularly once I was nonetheless working half time, I used to be nonetheless working full time in accounting.

[00:10:00] Like I can’t afford to relaxation. I don’t have the luxurious to try this. And so with relaxation, it’s actually simply serious about an understanding that in case you are. within the mentality of I’ll relaxation when every part is finished. The rationale every part is rarely executed and also you solely relaxation them while you’re utterly exhausted otherwise you lastly get it executed at 2am is since you aren’t resting.

[00:10:24] Your mind doesn’t have sufficient power to really do the work targeted and fast and simple. So, um, The analogy I like to share with that is if you concentrate on understanding and you concentrate on, so I take advantage of the instance of burpees, which is while you’re like leaping up and you then put your fingers on the bottom and also you soar your legs again.

[00:10:44] And in the event you had a private coach, say to you, do 10 burpees. And you then do the burpees and like, okay. Okay. I’m going to do 10 extra. Like, okay. And do 10 extra. Okay. I’ll do 10 extra. Okay. And do 10 extra. And also you simply hold getting instructed do extra, do extra, or simply ultimately, simply hold doing them on a regular basis since you ought to at all times be doing burpees.

[00:11:08] Finally a, the standard of your burpee dramatically reducing as a result of you are attempting to preserve power. You don’t even know when a break is coming as a result of this tough ass private coach isn’t supplying you with any relaxation in anyway. So that you’ve obtained to get that relaxation your self by slowing down, by making up the excuse that I have to go to the bathroom or even have a name I have to take.

[00:11:30] Like we do that if we aren’t getting clear breaths. In the event you discover you’re procrastinating rather a lot, it’s since you want relaxation and that’s the one method you will get it. So that you procrastinate, you scroll, you go and take a look at YouTube movies, you would possibly do procrastinate studying and go and watch one other coaching about one thing that your mind is like, I can’t really operate at this focus stage for therefore lengthy.

[00:11:54] I have to take a break. You aren’t giving me one. So I’ll get one by way of procrastination, or I’ll get one by way of overthinking this straightforward process in order that I don’t have time to maneuver on to the tougher duties that my mind doesn’t have power for. So once I began experimenting with clear relaxation, it was once I was really in a position in my work time to To not solely prioritize, I really began prioritizing what actually wanted to be executed, however I had method higher concepts.

[00:12:23] I may get work executed extra rapidly, extra simply as a result of I may see there was a lightweight on the finish of the tunnel that I knew I may belief myself once I was really going to complete, that I might get relaxation the identical method. In case you have a private coach they usually stated, okay, do 10 burpees. And he stated, okay, I’m going to do 10 burpees.

[00:12:40] They stated, okay, we’re going to do three units of 10, 30 in whole. And you then get to relaxation. That’s the top of the exercise. You’ll do this, giving it your all, as a result of you realize relaxation is coming. The identical applies to work. If you realize relaxation is coming, even in the event you’re going to take care of your children or be busy, if you realize that mind relaxation is coming, then it’s protected to offer a full effort.

[00:13:07] However proper now you’re working on this like 50 p.c conserving power mode since you don’t belief you’re ever going to get a break. So you need to preserve power and also you’re simply continually like engaged on simpler issues otherwise you aren’t working in any respect. You’re procrastinating. Otherwise you’re having to then subsequently additionally depend on the final minute spurt of motivation.

[00:13:29] So that you procrastinate all all through the day and you then’re like, Oh my God, I solely obtained a few hours to get issues executed. Or like now it’s the night. I actually need to get issues executed. And also you do this versus what we train you is find out how to relaxation. After which in your work time, the hours you really need to work, you may simply be productive.

[00:13:45] And it’s a little bit of a thoughts fuck as a result of you need to take the counter intuitive method. of accelerating your relaxation to extend your productiveness and never simply bodily relaxation. It’s about mind relaxation and resting with out the story that I must be doing one thing proper now, resting with out the story that I’m behind.

[00:14:03] So in PGSD, we train you find out how to get clear relaxation. And it makes such a distinction, not simply to the, your, um, high quality of your work and productiveness, However the high quality of your life, you really get to be current along with your associate, along with your children. You really get to have a lot extra of a private life and really take pleasure in it moderately than resenting your private life for taking time away from your corporation.

[00:14:30] So that’s all about clear relaxation and why it’s so vital for perfectionists. It’s completely key. It is advisable get your self clear relaxation. It’s totally different for everybody. There’s no set quantity, nevertheless it must be just a bit bit greater than you’re snug with. Okay. And thru energy planning, it is possible for you to to review your self and perceive for you particularly on this stage of life you’re in, what your ideally suited quantity of unpolluted relaxation seems like.

[00:14:53] So for me, clear relaxation regarded totally different once I was at totally different levels of my enterprise and totally different levels as properly of my private life, like earlier than I had children. After which once I had my daughter, after which once I additionally had the twins. So, So it can look totally different as your life modifications and your corporation modifications, however by way of energy planning, you may have the talent to have the ability to determine for your self what that ideally suited quantity is for you.

[00:15:17] And you then’re in a position to assist your self to really get that. And it’s simply probably the greatest methods to dramatically, dramatically enhance productiveness, work high quality, and life satisfaction. So I’m a reasonably, fairly massive proponent of unpolluted relaxation. So I hope that’s useful. And I’ll discuss to you within the subsequent a part of the sequence.

Outro

[00:15:41] If you’re able to get out of your personal method in your corporation, I need to invite you inside my productiveness program for perfectionist entrepreneurs known as Perfectionists Getting Shit Carried out. We’re opening enrollment for one week solely from the thirty first of January, 2025 to the seventh of February, 2025. To search out out extra about this system and be part of the waitlist so you may join when doorways open, go to samlaurabrown.com/PGSD.